What’s Your Love Language?

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People have different ways in giving love, as well as in receiving it. Some shows love by giving stuffs like chocolates and flowers, some expresses their love by ringing up that someone just to tell them “I love you.” Some feels that they are loved if someone hugs them. Some feels the love if someone is simply just always right besides them. So, the question is...how will you know if it’s love?  

Have you heard the languages of love? Yeah, love do speaks in different languages and we need to brood over it. As we all know, love is an action word and it needs communication (verbal/non-verbal) and so...it needs a language. Love is just like a usual convo wherein, both the giver and the receiver of the message need to have that common language for mutual understanding.  Well, what are these love languages then??? According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five (5) languages of love, it’s written down there:

1)      Words of affirmation

2)      Quality time

3)      Receiving gifts

4)      Acts of service

5)      Physical touch

Hmmm...so what ya think is yours??? I have a quizzer in here Love Language Test  I already took this one and its fun. Honestly, I wasn’t that so surprised on the result of this quizzer ‘coz I got the gist on how it should be...well, it’s based on psychological study and I knew it’s so me. Now speak with me...what ‘ya think is mine? Whoops...I don’t know if my closest ones knew my love language hehe. I guess, they’re the one who would gonna be surprised anyway. So...you can let your friends, family and that special someone, anyone you love, to take this quizzer also so you will know his/her love language. Checked it out and see what love language you’re speaking. You can also go over this site from Dr. Chapman and know more about this 5lovelanguagesDrChapman.

An Open Letter from a Wishing Star

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This is not a heart break letter. Don’t worry. Nothing to break, ‘cause we? ------ No Commitment. Just issues.

Honestly, I don’t know how to start this. What words to choose, what paragraph to compose. Technically, I’m not good in writing.

The whole ride was totally fun! It was memorable, full of what ifs, full of smiles. And I know, I may have that fun in my life again, I know this is better for everyone involved.

       I feel total guilt about the disrespect I have shown to you, to her, and especially to myself. It’s time for me to step-up to the plate and quite acting like I don’t know the difference between GOOD and BAD.

My thoughts: “If you really want to love her, then you shouldn’t be messing around me. You should put all your time and effort into giving your relationship the attention it needs. And you can’t do that if I’m here. “

        My eyes have been opened. We BOTH deserve more, and it’s clear neither of us will find it in one another. Giving up doesn’t always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go.

           

        I’m gonna smile like nothing’s wrong. Pretend that everything’s all right and act like it’s all perfect. Love was the greatest gift we have received, yet Love also brings the greatest pain we have to endure.

           

        One day when we least expect it, we will find that thingsare less painful. I was and will be forever amazed at how much my heart can bear. And yes, you and I will be grateful for all that we have lost and for all the things that we will find, in the RIGHT TIME.

      “Each night I put my head to my pillow, SMILE and telling myself I’m strong because another day has ended without YOU.”

It Still Hurts

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There are times that we would never thought that it still hurts, even though we are happy knowing the person we loved before were already committed with someone else. I got one story, and it goes like this:

                Holding my phone, I browse over the web, read updates from social media networks, clicking some likes and dragging down for more...then accidentally my eyes flicker over that post. Uh-oh, he got some updates. Got to pause awhile, checking that I’m not getting a false alarm. Bump! There it goes, “In a Relationship”. I switched off my phone and make up my mind. Got a sigh---a big sigh. Gosh, I’m happy for him, but I just can’t understand, why the hell do I feel such pain? Can’t deny - I get hurt, OMG, it still hurts.

                C'mon what happened??? Well, I came to realize what people mostly say “The value of a person is more appreciated when they’re gone” and it sucks me.

It’s Complicated

You know what? You may find it so insane, but this always comes to my mind. Mostly, guys, these days just wanna have fun. It’s so true right? When it comes to love, it’s a game. When it comes to relationships, it’s complicated. Errr, they’re such a dense. Sorry this sounds so mean. But, why they prefer to get into that damn complicated relationship then? Why do they love playing games? A game that says...whoever falls in love first will lose or a hide & seek scenario. C’mon such a freak! Well, I still understand them anyway, it’s a guy thing though, and it’s their nature. I know playing games is fun & should be enjoyed. There are rules also to be obeyed. I know also that in the end, there should someone to win but the real point is...it’s more of a win-win situation wherein both opponent gain. It’s the reward...the lessons & experience. Every girl knows that of course. Hmmm, but in this kind of relationships---taking such chances by trying, playing with feelings, enjoying the waves of every moment until such time wherein it goes off beyond the limits. Damn...this is sickenin’. It should not be that way. I hope guys should take in control over every action they’re taking in. Guys should know how to stop it. Guys should know how to close the door that very moment, on the first step they risk in opening it. Girls do are kinda weak when it comes to feelings that’s why most guys do take advantage of it. Girls also have that powerful instinct and very well in reading body languages. So every action a guy makes might be misinterpreted.

Having entered into a complicated relationship is easy & smooth at first, but as time goes by, it’s getting harder & harder until it breaks. Especially when that relationship is not getting into the right track as it goes by; when you feel it’s gonna work no more; when there’s only one who’s willing to continue building it; when beforehand, it’s complicated already & both of you just wanna try. Then when it gets worse, you got nothing to do but to shout it out, just to release the pain, the hatred that burdens you so much. I know there are few who make this relationship work, but honestly, I know you do know too...it really takes so much pain before you gain from it. It’s riskier ‘coz you don’t know where it’s leading. There’s no plan at all.  It’s a take it or leave it situation. It’s not really an ideal move by a gentle guy. Every girl wants to be treated as they should be, as a real girl, as a lady, as a woman and guys should always be aware of it.

Awkward Moment

That moment when you’re thought whispers “I like him”, and it feels so damn awkward at the same time. That moment when you used to be so silent coz you’re unable & uncomfortable to speak. That moment when you keep staring at him & suddenly takes off your gaze when he looks back. That moment when you feel conscious with your actions, you used to hide all your jittery inside. Hey, you know what??? Take a note of this one, you used to know each other in words...but for real...gosh its kinda blow off. I don’t get it, a part of me knows how to deal with it but still, it’s just I’m that Ms. KnowItAll. He kicked off my gawkiness by a nudge. Wow ugh, that’s a nice start, I think. So I should act the usual way, Isn’t it? How come I couldn’t?  

How come I’d been trap with that awkwardness? Oh! C’mon, that very moment could give it a shot. It’s a “don’t be a kill joy, go with flow and just enjoy” chance. This is so sickenin’, you know, I got nothing to do but to hush it up & take control over what I should have to, to take control the feelings bursting over me, to just let it happen & be blown by the wind. I understand that he’s been cautious over his actions ‘coz he’s guard off with his group of friends who knows nothing about us beeping up each other a long while. Honestly, there’s nothing to worry over things going on that very moment, coz it’s so typical. All I want is to know him a bit more, coz his cool, his funny and one more thing...he’s cute. At first, I didn’t notice, but as I get closer, OMG...he really is. Don’t you dare to smile even more, I’m gonna fly shhhhh. Anyway, on my way until it’s over, I always think of this so damn crap...errr. I can’t help it? Whatta freak. Dunno what to do? Please somebody let me stop this. I know everything of that moment is a Certified Awkward Affair ever.