Guys, Effort Please!

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How do guys get a girl these days? They do it so easily right? I mean no sweat, no effort. Well, IKR...no wonder, everything goes out with social media. You can make friends with a girl you seen online that you find pretty, cute or stunning by hitting up that ADD FRIEND button. You can easily chase what’s goin’ on ATM with the girl you’re admiring by just hitting up that FOLLOW button. You can get connected with the girl you’re into by chatting her, get her digits, go out for a meet up... and there ‘ya go---see what happens next. That’s so, so real quick. A guy can have it all in a short period of time.

TBH, I understand these days, time flew fast and searching out for a potential relationship through social media is kinda an edge to give it a shot. Even it’s been miles away or on the other side of the world, a guy can likely get a girl. Hmmm, one thing I just notice is that guys take this for granted. You might say...just guys? Srsly?  Yep, of course! Still, guys should initiate right? Well, they forget what an EFFORT means. An effort to show the real motive, to show the respect, to show the sincerity. Damn it... that’s what girls anticipate, an effort. It’s a must and guys should be mindful of that. Girls often are kinda tenuous when it comes to feelings. We can easily snag by guys tricky moves. It’s inevitable. IKR, it’s a girl thing and it could be guy’s implication for a sloppy intention. Guys, take a note...it doesn’t work all the time, so don’t be at ease with that though. Ya know what, usually these guys befriend a girl, get into that petty convos, afterwards where now? What the heck? They’re here now, tomorrow they’re gone. Sometimes in the middle of nowhere, without even hitting them into our head, they suddenly beep us up. Phew! They might say, I just wanna know how are you...I just thought of you...I got nothing to do, ya know-a little bored blah blah blah. They might think there’s an effort in there, ‘coz they keep in touch. I might say that’s effort inconsistency. Such a big sigh. So guys, pls. don’t mess up. If you want a girl, it shouldn’t be like that and I know you knew what should be. 

By The Sea

We  met by the sea

Never thought that would be

On the way I pass by

You stand there and said "Hi"

As when I catch your gaze

Brought a smile on my face

You asked for my name

Huh? and on my number then

Throughout that time

Never let go your eyes on mine

I tried to ignore

But you keep teasing more

Don't know what to do

I just take it with a "Go"

Spot the Difference (Dating and Courting)

                Before ... I got confusion between dating and courting thinking they’re just one. As I go browsing and reading and analyzing and understanding about this topic, I’d found out and realized that... Yeah right they were related with each other but they’re having those specifically distinguishing differences.

What is dating? 

              

                It’s a “getting to know each other” stage. It’s the first step in terms of building up a relationship between opposite sex. It starts when a person specifically a guy get attracted to a girl. The possibility to push through it by constant communication and hanging out together, get them involved in dating. Dating develops mutual interest forming a relationship. Dating means relationship. It’s not literally to be labelled as it is to be... still, it’s a matter of what’s within. Relationships may either be intimate or sexual. It’s intimate when it involves constant and mutual understanding. It’s sexual when it’s more of physical with no emotional attachment. Meaning, it’s kinda...relationships for trial??? (Think,think) I guess...if it works out or not. It may either be short or long (but not too long) term.

What is courting?

           

               The term courting usually misinterpreted to be same as dating. No, it’s not. Courting is a “settling down” stage. It comes after dating that grows in deeper and mature relationship, in a more serious type and stable form of relationship. It’s a continuous dating leading to engagement wherein the guys works out for the possibility of marrying a girl. Both parties talk not just for themselves individually, but themselves as one having one goal for their future. It’s building a wider relationship where a guy goes over in knowing and pleasing more of a girl’s circle of family and relatives. Courting is where real love blooms with acceptance and respect. It’s a relationship in a long-run.