Guys, Effort Please!

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How do guys get a girl these days? They do it so easily right? I mean no sweat, no effort. Well, IKR...no wonder, everything goes out with social media. You can make friends with a girl you seen online that you find pretty, cute or stunning by hitting up that ADD FRIEND button. You can easily chase what’s goin’ on ATM with the girl you’re admiring by just hitting up that FOLLOW button. You can get connected with the girl you’re into by chatting her, get her digits, go out for a meet up... and there ‘ya go---see what happens next. That’s so, so real quick. A guy can have it all in a short period of time.

TBH, I understand these days, time flew fast and searching out for a potential relationship through social media is kinda an edge to give it a shot. Even it’s been miles away or on the other side of the world, a guy can likely get a girl. Hmmm, one thing I just notice is that guys take this for granted. You might say...just guys? Srsly?  Yep, of course! Still, guys should initiate right? Well, they forget what an EFFORT means. An effort to show the real motive, to show the respect, to show the sincerity. Damn it... that’s what girls anticipate, an effort. It’s a must and guys should be mindful of that. Girls often are kinda tenuous when it comes to feelings. We can easily snag by guys tricky moves. It’s inevitable. IKR, it’s a girl thing and it could be guy’s implication for a sloppy intention. Guys, take a note...it doesn’t work all the time, so don’t be at ease with that though. Ya know what, usually these guys befriend a girl, get into that petty convos, afterwards where now? What the heck? They’re here now, tomorrow they’re gone. Sometimes in the middle of nowhere, without even hitting them into our head, they suddenly beep us up. Phew! They might say, I just wanna know how are you...I just thought of you...I got nothing to do, ya know-a little bored blah blah blah. They might think there’s an effort in there, ‘coz they keep in touch. I might say that’s effort inconsistency. Such a big sigh. So guys, pls. don’t mess up. If you want a girl, it shouldn’t be like that and I know you knew what should be. 

Awkward Moment

That moment when you’re thought whispers “I like him”, and it feels so damn awkward at the same time. That moment when you used to be so silent coz you’re unable & uncomfortable to speak. That moment when you keep staring at him & suddenly takes off your gaze when he looks back. That moment when you feel conscious with your actions, you used to hide all your jittery inside. Hey, you know what??? Take a note of this one, you used to know each other in words...but for real...gosh its kinda blow off. I don’t get it, a part of me knows how to deal with it but still, it’s just I’m that Ms. KnowItAll. He kicked off my gawkiness by a nudge. Wow ugh, that’s a nice start, I think. So I should act the usual way, Isn’t it? How come I couldn’t?  

How come I’d been trap with that awkwardness? Oh! C’mon, that very moment could give it a shot. It’s a “don’t be a kill joy, go with flow and just enjoy” chance. This is so sickenin’, you know, I got nothing to do but to hush it up & take control over what I should have to, to take control the feelings bursting over me, to just let it happen & be blown by the wind. I understand that he’s been cautious over his actions ‘coz he’s guard off with his group of friends who knows nothing about us beeping up each other a long while. Honestly, there’s nothing to worry over things going on that very moment, coz it’s so typical. All I want is to know him a bit more, coz his cool, his funny and one more thing...he’s cute. At first, I didn’t notice, but as I get closer, OMG...he really is. Don’t you dare to smile even more, I’m gonna fly shhhhh. Anyway, on my way until it’s over, I always think of this so damn crap...errr. I can’t help it? Whatta freak. Dunno what to do? Please somebody let me stop this. I know everything of that moment is a Certified Awkward Affair ever.

By The Sea

We  met by the sea

Never thought that would be

On the way I pass by

You stand there and said "Hi"

As when I catch your gaze

Brought a smile on my face

You asked for my name

Huh? and on my number then

Throughout that time

Never let go your eyes on mine

I tried to ignore

But you keep teasing more

Don't know what to do

I just take it with a "Go"

Love Bar

Black dress I’m wearing

Gorgeous friends I’m having

Ready now for partying

Dance floor...we’re coming

Fancy lights flashing

Crowd is glowing

Dj beats on spinning

Groovy music’s playing

Everybody’s enjoying

Dinks up and tossing

On wines they’re holding

Hands too on air waving

But I just jeep on dancing

With songs I join on singing

My eyes around looking

Caught cute guy on me gazing

I respond him smiling

On my way he’s then walking

With music ear-piercing

He reach my ear whispering

“I like you!” He’s saying

I just stare, it’s flattering

What a lovely face I’m seeing

I seemed to be dreaming

He takes my hand holding

Dunno what’s happening

As he keeps on chasing

In his fragrance, I’m floating

He hugs me, I’m drowning

And kiss me not knowing

My heart so fast beating

It feels like I’m dying

My time stops on running

Guess I’m ‘bout to be falling

My gosh! I’m not expecting

For such game I’m playing

I never thought of doing

That night ‘til morning

In the bar now I’m leaving

It’s so exhausting

Everything put in an ending

Without us get knowing

Only just names we’re sharing

And memories remaining

Can’t stop on him thinking

Can’t forget that feeling

The guy I met...so amazing!

Guys Love Girls in Words

            Guys have convincing power in words for girls. They’re really sophisticated. It sounds so perfect. Whatta crazy stuff. I’m always mesmerized how it works. So I come to view in their horizon and observe some possibilities. Words are not enough though but why guys love girls with just wordsss??? Check this out:

• 1.       Guys’ nature – They are born to be such an expressive people especially when it comes to liking girls. It’s part of their way to win over for love. Complimenting girls just come out in them naturally. Blowing in for the right word sounds so magical wherein girls used to be blind folded. Although it’s green-eyed for us girls knowing guys can only do it that way...it’s incomparable.
• 2.       Guys’ deal – Guys are easy going when it comes to love. Boys trifle over girls on love. Through their words. They just go with the flow and enjoy that ride. They do love giving compliments. The fact is that, their egos enhances when they praises a girl they love. It’s kinda awkward then not to mean those words. Words where us girls just read and hear...not see nor feel in actions.
• 3.       Guys’ vagueness – Words use for love by guys are their reflection of uncertainty. Their minds are wrapped up with undecided decisions on whether they really love the girl. Such communicating with their feelings through words are used sometimes in a hilarious way of playing safe to please girls on their hazy intentions.
• 4.       Guys’ shyness – This techy generation is an advantage for a silent-type guy to clearly spell out their feelings to a girl through words. Though they can’t speak to it directly...they type it in through text messages and chats. Mostly, they prefer to involve in a ranging networking sites. They can fearlessly express their feelings with conviction in there.

All these instances are usual situation. Expressing feelings through words are helpful to win for love, they’re effective and proven. Still, the best way to prove love is by showing it with a genuine and perseverance efforts. Love is not just a WORD...it’s an ACTION WORD. So guys...you better shut up...just move!

“Falling In Love” Vs. “Being In Love”

            When we talk about love...basically the first thing comes on our mind is that...”I’m falling for him/her!” Psychologically speaking, that sounds a typical way to say it. It’s very unusual for everyone. On the other hand, literally speaking, there’s something wrong with that. It’s totally such a mistake to fall for love. You’ll never notice that easily ‘coz the feeling you had is perplex. You really had no idea why you eventually end up loving him/her. It’s not a forceful situation that you decided to fall...you just fall...no exemption. That’s how love works though. Love is always a mystery. But, isn't it’s wrong to fall in love? Somehow, you’ll gonna realize that the idea of falling with someone may sooner or later leads to heartaches and broken-hearts.  Another thing is that, it’s uncertain if the one you’re falling with is willing to catch you. It’s kinda half-witted guessing game. The worst thing, you’re gonna think of love to be unfair wherein you just keep on hanging or got bruised for falling. You come out to feel bitter and may judge love for its imperfection.  Yeah...it’s really part of falling in love. Motion creates emotion. That motion to fall isn't gonna be perfect way in bringing up a feeling for love. The tendency to fall hard gives a deeper pain. Those pains will hurt you so much that may ruin your life and make you so miserable. It’s never gonna be easy. Recovery stage depends on the state of the affected situation. You’ll never know how long it would last although time will heal.

                   

             Yes!...it’s gonna be love, you got it. Isn't it sounds great when you say “I’m being in love with him/her!” or just say “I’m inlove with him/her!”? Omitting the word fall provides you a different outlook. You see all great things and beautiful. That’s the real love – happy, understanding and comforting...selfless...perfect love. The idea of being in love indulges in a cozy and fantastic experience. It’s like putting your love to someone you’re in loved with. Still, that love is unexplained ..it’s by nature that you just feel the magic of love...so you just love...just love...not FALL. It’s guaranteed that no one does gonna be hang unlike when you fall in love. Being in love with someone provides acceptance on wherever your love be going. The chance to have that mutual feeling is definite too. When you’re in love, you let those pieces of both your hearts to be handle with care and trust with each other. Those hearts as a symbol of love will surely grow for a lusting relationship because of such nourishment  It’s always a part of love then to experience those down moments but it’s divergent to falling in love. Painful situation are much lighter and healing process have lesser time when you’re being in love. It’s because of the proper way of handling your relationship. You both know and understand that they’re just challenges for both of you to overcome together. You always come up as a team with love being merged as one. So there’s nothing more to feel than being in love . Don’t stop loving...keep being in love everyday.

Guys...For Reel or Real???

               These days when we think ‘bout guys...whoooh, they’re really are such boys...who usually make rules for games...and that’s their nature though. It’s good to see how they enjoy life. They are good players and know how they’ll gonna make it to win. They have techniques and know where to use it. They are risk takers who attempt on whatever happens. They are adventurous and very curious. They are hard-and-fast...happy-go-lucky. They love how their guts enriching their ego. They are such a flabbergasting people.

                In spite of those groovy qualities modern guys have, they seem to break the rules...yah...you’d read it right! That makes them a little complicated. There are pieces of bafflement behind those tricky deeds. Those sincere eyes may bluff. Those naive words may deceit. That sweet caress may disappear. One day they’re there...the next day they’re gone. Guys enjoy those changes due to modernization. The environmental development brought out by technological evolution. That made them so cool to experiment. They deal on everything, so then with feelings. Yeah...the point here is their feelings. The real thing is that...their emotional distinction sometimes is doubtful. It’s either “Yes” or “No” behavior – the idea where they can’t read their minds that easy. Their stability status range in between wherein there’s no fixed outcome. When they reach for a climax condition, then comes in a diminishing returns that results in starting a new one...meaning, there’s no contentment yet and they are just so filled with a hazy thought.

                Still, with all such good or bad insights about guys...for reel or real...for them, being happy to go along with what life bring is the most adventurous, amazing, and surprising rules in a race of guys’ game of love. But, as time goes by, everything changes always for good. Boys become guys...become man. Their rules become their vision. Their race tracks become their guidance. Their strategies become their armor.  Their guts become their power. All the crazy stuffs become their experience leading for a realization of learning. Game is over when they win for a real thing called TRUE LOVE.